How to deal with the doubts or confusion of life By Jitu Das philosophy





What stops us from anything is doubt.
It is the doubt that stops us, a doubt that tells that your life will be ruined if you go this or that way.Doubt keeps you irritated and unsatisfied even though doubt may not exist as physical barrier. But a simple doubt is so powerful to make any strong man lose their inner peace of having a clear determined path or road of life to walk on.
Doubt keeps the mankind unsatiWhat stops us from anything is doubt.
It is the doubt that stops us, a doubt that tells that your life will be ruined if you go this or that way.Doubt keeps you irritated and unsatisfied even though doubt may not exist as physical barrier. But a simple doubt is so powerful to make any strong man lose their inner peace of having a clear determined path or road of life to walk on.
Doubt keeps the mankind unsatisfied leading to exploration of its self.
Doubt is not one of things that is for everyone.
Doubt is for those who may or may not unknowingly seek the truth of himself.
Doubt is always has been from the time human started thinking.
Doubt will always be there in the human soul as long as the humankind exists.

But what is doubt ? What does doubt to life ? Especially to those who can think ? and only life that can think is human as far as we know.
Doubt is wanting to reach two goals following two different path or sometime one goal but having doubts about following which road ?

Doubt is not being satisfied in one path discarding other similar paths that may cross each other in future or not.
Doubt means having found yourself dwelling in more than one thoughts,paths,way or goal.
Doubt is being afraid to make a choice,because by making a choice you can steer your life into a whole new direction to a whole new road towards a different goal.
Doubt keeps you on dwelling nd never gives you any rest,peace or happiness.
In doubt,you do not move, you simply pause inside stopping yourself from all the fun and joy in the world, preferring to solve the puzzle of doubt at first.But doubts never ceases to stop,because in life, you want control everything, thus knowing that each choice impacts your life,you tend to become very careful in making choices from eating the largest piece of cake to having the latest model car to having a gorgeous life-partner.And yet thousands other choices still waiting for you approvable.

How do you make the best choices ?? Some does not care about the best choices, they are very ethical ,they were brought up that way , they would ask, how to make the right choices in life ? 
Why do we get doubts ? Is having doubt is okay ?
Having doubt is normal.We get doubts from our deep psych,so that we think about what we really want or not.We just do not get doubts.There are reasons why we get doubts.
What kind of people get doubts most ?

I think that people who take life as a one big-great adventure or as an one time experience tend to get more doubts in life than those who does not think like that.Because people who believe that life is only for one time, they become very careful in choosing things that matters to life very much.They are very careful in chosing a profession or a job, by doing which they would spend their earning money.These people gets a very hard time choosing a jobline or chosing a wife or a husband.Because they are too scared to trust life. They just can not simply let life happen, they want to know the future and they are always worried about what will happen in future. They do not know that future is uncertain and full of surprises and surprise is what makes so amazing. Life is about living the surprises of each day, today and tomorrow. You should not try to know your next day or next year. All you should know and concentrate is in now. You must have clear ideas about now rather than tomorrow or the future.
In doubts you do not follow any of the road that you desired because you can not make up your mind on one goal.Tragedy is that you would not even notice that you are tending to give up the both roads that you once desired to work.In doubt you get tired of dwelling from making choices in your mind rather than solid choice.being tired you now tend to hate the very roads you were having struggling having doubts.

So how do we deal with doubts ?
Should we not think so much about what is the right road of life and let the life take us the way it will naturally flow ? 

That means we should trust the universe and do nothing much and hope that in the end life will take care of itself in the right way. Is life not to controlled but to be followed trusting that course of life is predetermined and it will take us to our destiny. But we humans are also a part of nature and so we must possess the power to impact our own life and others in a good way. I think that as we are part of nature, we can also control a part of our life,not the entire life. There are so many things that influence a human.Both nature and nurture play vital role in life.But what is more important in a man's life, nature or nurture ? It is the nature that is more important. Doubt comes to you, when you have two favorite things and you can only choose one.But if you are having doubts about career, do not worry. Because it is okay to have more than one interests in life, do not feel bad or confused or overwhelmed or helpless just because you have more than one interest. When people say that follow one goal, one interest in life.

What does the people mean when they advise you to follow one goal in life ? 

I want to know what is this goal, destiny they talk about so confidently. What goal should you achieve in life how anyone else could know ? There are no right goals. Road of life is not same as that the highway road I go to city from my town. The goal of every life is death.There are more than 700 crore. people live in earth and one day all of them will die including me and you.All that matters is what you experience in the days you live. After death, nothing can be felt. It depends on you how you react to life. Most people does not not want peace in the world, they would rather have war and profit by selling their modern weapons. Do not worry about the right and perfect goal in life.Just follow the interest where you can spend your whole day without feeling tired and bored. You can not do all works all day being fresh and energetic.

Do not fall in the trap of doubts.Doubts stop you rather than helping you to achieve a result.Doubt turns into a statue and you remain that as long as you hold the belief that you are here on earth for one and only purpose. I think we are here for many reasons or purposes.As a human, our aim in life is not to eat,sleep, grow, reproduce and then get old and die. We do much much more than that. May be that was aim in life when we were living 200000 years ago ! I believe in the fact of evolution. As we entering into each new year, this is 2014, and the month is march and date is 5. As we marking time, our aim in life is changing, the meaning of life is also changing.

Why people nowadays get more doubts and confusion about career, life-partner etc ?

People are getting more and more confused because of the expanding options or ways or work-feilds by which you can spend your life. As said in Geeta, holy book of Hinduism, that '' Karma is the dharma'', Karma means work and dharma means religion or duty or goal. So,when people talks about having a goal in life, they actually talk about having a work to do in life to service the humankind.

So what to do when you get doubts ?

When you get doubts for example if you are having doubts about hiding yourself or expressing yourself and talent ,what should you do ? There is some force that is holding you from expressing your talent,.being honest to yourself.The force is ego, sometime it hides as shyness stopping from connecting people scaring you. Whenever it comes to expressing yourself and and hiding,always express your talent.

When you are having doubts about following which favorite path ? Then trust your instinct, the inner force that tends to take where you belong.

When you are having doubts about helping or not helping someone ? We all get in a situation, where you want to help someone but you also tend to step back because you wonder about what you gain when give. In situation like that do not worry about what you will gain helping someone, because helping is itself a great chance to serve humankind.Tolstoy said that service to man is service to god. By helping someone you gain a confidence and good feeling about yourself that by being able to help someone.

When you are in doubts of choosing friends, choose the friends who helped you in the past for no gain of his or her own.

When you are in doubts whom should you marry, the marry the girl who loves you and you love her too.The looks keeps changes,beauty of people also fades but the true love and care does not fade away.

When you are in doubts about the meaning of life, then know that there is no one meaning of life.Life is a point of view. Buddha said that you become what you think. So you create yourself by your thoughts.By having good thoughts you can can make your mood good.That is why watching Lord of the ring always makes me feel food.A kind of divine peace enters into your soul and you find yourself in a good mood.

To have doubts in life is normal,do not panic.We all get doubts in our daily life from choosing a piece of cake from a plate filled with many pieces of cake. You want the big one even they are all almost same size. Sometime you should stop that measuring the size of pieces and just take one. If you do that in everything, think how difficult life would be. If you get doubts in every choice then you would never experience new, surprise.Sometime you just need to take one road and go with it.Who knows what great things you shall discover in that road ?

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Doubt is not one of things that is for everyone.
Doubt is for those who may or may not unknowingly seek the truth of himself.
Doubt is always has been from the time human started thinking.
Doubt will always be there in the human soul as long as the humankind exists.

But what is doubt ? What does doubt to life ? Especially to those who can think ? and only life that can think is human as far as we know.
Doubt is wanting to reach two goals following two different path or sometime one goal but having doubts about following which road ?

Doubt is not being satisfied in one path discarding other similar paths that may cross each other in future or not.
Doubt means having found yourself dwelling in more than one thoughts,paths,way or goal.
Doubt is being afraid to make a choice,because by making a choice you can steer your life into a whole new direction to a whole new road towards a different goal.
Doubt keeps you on dwelling nd never gives you any rest,peace or happiness.
In doubt,you do not move, you simply pause inside stopping yourself from all the fun and joy in the world, preferring to solve the puzzle of doubt at first.But doubts never ceases to stop,because in life, you want control everything, thus knowing that each choice impacts your life,you tend to become very careful in making choices from eating the largest piece of cake to having the latest model car to having a gorgeous life-partner.And yet thousands other choices still waiting for you approvable.

How do you make the best choices ?? Some does not care about the best choices, they are very ethical ,they were brought up that way , they would ask, how to make the right choices in life ? 
Why do we get doubts ? Is having doubt is okay ?
Having doubt is normal.We get doubts from our deep psych,so that we think about what we really want or not.We just do not get doubts.There are reasons why we get doubts.
What kind of people get doubts most ?

I think that people who take life as a one big-great adventure or as an one time experience tend to get more doubts in life than those who does not think like that.Because people who believe that life is only for one time, they become very careful in choosing things that matters to life very much.They are very careful in chosing a profession or a job, by doing which they would spend their earning money.These people gets a very hard time choosing a jobline or chosing a wife or a husband.Because they are too scared to trust life. They just can not simply let life happen, they want to know the future and they are always worried about what will happen in future. They do not know that future is uncertain and full of surprises and surprise is what makes so amazing. Life is about living the surprises of each day, today and tomorrow. You should not try to know your next day or next year. All you should know and concentrate is in now. You must have clear ideas about now rather than tomorrow or the future.
In doubts you do not follow any of the road that you desired because you can not make up your mind on one goal.Tragedy is that you would not even notice that you are tending to give up the both roads that you once desired to work.In doubt you get tired of dwelling from making choices in your mind rather than solid choice.being tired you now tend to hate the very roads you were having struggling having doubts.

So how do we deal with doubts ?
Should we not think so much about what is the right road of life and let the life take us the way it will naturally flow ? 

That means we should trust the universe and do nothing much and hope that in the end life will take care of itself in the right way. Is life not to controlled but to be followed trusting that course of life is predetermined and it will take us to our destiny. But we humans are also a part of nature and so we must possess the power to impact our own life and others in a good way. I think that as we are part of nature, we can also control a part of our life,not the entire life. There are so many things that influence a human.Both nature and nurture play vital role in life.But what is more important in a man's life, nature or nurture ? It is the nature that is more important. Doubt comes to you, when you have two favorite things and you can only choose one.But if you are having doubts about career, do not worry. Because it is okay to have more than one interests in life, do not feel bad or confused or overwhelmed or helpless just because you have more than one interest. When people say that follow one goal, one interest in life.

What does the people mean when they advise you to follow one goal in life ? 

I want to know what is this goal, destiny they talk about so confidently. What goal should you achieve in life how anyone else could know ? There are no right goals. Road of life is not same as that the highway road I go to city from my town. The goal of every life is death.There are more than 700 crore. people live in earth and one day all of them will die including me and you.All that matters is what you experience in the days you live. After death, nothing can be felt. It depends on you how you react to life. Most people does not not want peace in the world, they would rather have war and profit by selling their modern weapons. Do not worry about the right and perfect goal in life.Just follow the interest where you can spend your whole day without feeling tired and bored. You can not do all works all day being fresh and energetic.

Do not fall in the trap of doubts.Doubts stop you rather than helping you to achieve a result.Doubt turns into a statue and you remain that as long as you hold the belief that you are here on earth for one and only purpose. I think we are here for many reasons or purposes.As a human, our aim in life is not to eat,sleep, grow, reproduce and then get old and die. We do much much more than that. May be that was aim in life when we were living 200000 years ago ! I believe in the fact of evolution. As we entering into each new year, this is 2014, and the month is march and date is 5. As we marking time, our aim in life is changing, the meaning of life is also changing.

Why people nowadays get more doubts and confusion about career, life-partner etc ?

People are getting more and more confused because of the expanding options or ways or work-feilds by which you can spend your life. As said in Geeta, holy book of Hinduism, that '' Karma is the dharma'', Karma means work and dharma means religion or duty or goal. So,when people talks about having a goal in life, they actually talk about having a work to do in life to service the humankind.

So what to do when you get doubts ?

When you get doubts for example if you are having doubts about hiding yourself or expressing yourself and talent ,what should you do ? There is some force that is holding you from expressing your talent,.being honest to yourself.The force is ego, sometime it hides as shyness stopping from connecting people scaring you. Whenever it comes to expressing yourself and and hiding,always express your talent.

When you are having doubts about following which favorite path ? Then trust your instinct, the inner force that tends to take where you belong.

When you are having doubts about helping or not helping someone ? We all get in a situation, where you want to help someone but you also tend to step back because you wonder about what you gain when give. In situation like that do not worry about what you will gain helping someone, because helping is itself a great chance to serve humankind.Tolstoy said that service to man is service to god. By helping someone you gain a confidence and good feeling about yourself that by 

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