কুক্কুৰ,শৄগাল,গৰ্দ্দ্ভৰো আত্মাৰাম
জানিয়া সবাকো পৰি কৰিব প্ৰনাম
KUKUR SRIGALA , GARBHARO ATMARAM, JANIYA SABAKO KARIBA PRANAM
কুক্কুৰ,শৄগাল,গৰ্দ্দ্ভৰো আত্মাৰাম
জানিয়া সবাকো পৰি কৰিব প্ৰনাম
My idea of a happy family by Jitu Das, Pathsala
A happy family is one in which all the members love, respect and care for each other naturally regardless of the age, gender,,personality, look,career,job etc. No matter what your socio-economic status is , a family is there for you always.A family is the most heaviest and important component of your life, thus we all wish for a happy family, where every member understands you. A family is happy, where every member have a good feelings towards each other,where members are health, economic,educated; where the young members love and respect the older members. A family may be nuclear( mother,father and children) or consanguine ( grandparents, parents, uncle,aunt,cousins) Each family consist of members, members with different personality,every member is unique, no one is same, though one or two characters may be similar.A family can only be happy,when member is satisfied with their own life.
A family just do not happen to be happy or sad.As we all know behind everything there is a reason,
The most reason responsible for a unhappy family are -
1. Alcoholic or drug addicted members always makes a family unhappy. Alcoholic parents influence on their children and it is likely to be that , the children may becomes fond of intoxicating material too.
2. Gambling member; if any member of a family gets addicted gambling, that could the family economically at a very great risk.Gambling have ruined many families.
3.Disrespect, hate and jealousy towards each other,only cause sadness- and depression in a family, which results the splitting of family members in most family.
But what makes a family happy ?
The followings are my idea about How to make a happy family
1. No doubt that, most important reason that makes a family happy is LOVE. The good feelings towards each other and the will to do good for each other is love.Care is what you want to take, when you love someone and it comes naturally So, in every happy or in relationship love is the real band or connection, where members are willing to do anything to keep the connection.If in the family, parents are so busy with their own business , and have no time for their children, the parents will miss one of the most wonderful experience in the world , and that is to raise children.Just like that, grown up children should also spend their time with their parents having gratitudes,love and respect in their heart
2. Everyday numerous events happens to us all.We all love to share what happened today in our life and thats why more than 100 crore people use facebook,twitter and blogs now. To share our thoughts we seek companions.In a happy family ,they provide a great company and listen to each other's problems and seek to know what happened today with each other's life. Listening is one of the important part of any relationship just like talking.Talking and listening with someone creates a connection which results intimacy.I believe it is the intimacy that creates love.In simple.,if you are spending so much time with someone or something ,you definitely gonna fall in love with.
3.In this modern age of competition one thing that everybody need is inspiration, which is a great reason behind a happy family.Everybody in a family expects supports from each other to reach their goal.In a happy family,the parents inspire and motivate their children to have a good life.In a happy family parents understands what their children want to become in their life and guide the path.In a happy family,where parents do not compare their children with other's children, because they know it very well that comparing wouldn't help, it would only make the children feel bad.
In a happy family, the parents teach and encourage their children to have a happy life rather that only demanding grades. In a happy family,parents never curse or punish their children .In happy families parents don't talk about the controversial parts of other family and never curse and criticize neighbors, relatives and other people in front of their children.
For a happy family, parents are more responsible than children , because children follow the elders.The behavior of children only comes from their parents.The way the parents treat their parents( i.e. the grandparents) it is very likely to happen that,the children when grows up, would treat their parents the same same way, because they learned the way from their parents.
In a happy family, parents and children are like friends,because they know it very well that creating a generation gap will only weaken their family bond.In a happy family,parents are concerned about the happiness of their children to make career in the field they are good at.
4. In a happy family,members are educated both morally and practically.A home is always regarded as a first place for education of the children.Children learns the moral education from their parents and elders both verbally and non-verbally.A happy family knows the art of living and apply it in their family.The art of living is one of the most beautiful art by which humane can achieve or reach the highest level of happiness in life, which is indeed the greatest success on earth.Discipline , regularity, neat& cleanness,economic of a house are all parts of the art of living.A happy family takes good food, live in peace in a clean house.They have a good taste in music,they have a small library.In a happy family,they watch inspiring films about life, not the cheap programs in television .A family where people laugh more than 15 time,is surely a happy family, because from a census, it is found that an average children laugh 415 time a day and an average adult laugh only 15 time a day.
5. One of the most important thing about a happy family is the comfort in their home.A happy family make their home comfortable,disciplined and neat& clean,where the air passing through is fresh,water is pure and rooms are filled with sunlight coming through the opened window .
6.One of the most important component in the recipe to make a happy family is the unconditional love between mother and father.A father or a husband working all day outside comes home being tired and hungry comes home with a hope peace,comfort and of course good food. If his wife at least keeps the house clean and makes food for her husband,then why in the world the husband would go to a club or bar.He would feel safe,satisfied and content in his own home with his loving wife and children.
7. For a happy family, health is very important too.Without a good health, nothing in life feels good. Thats why a good healthy diet must be followed. A good health increase the ability to work, think and to do all the other activity of daily life.Cholesterol is the main reason for many disease such as high-pressure,diabetes,obesity,heart and liver diseases. To avoid, cholesterol and such disease , taking junk food and fast food must be limited.
Today the most scaring disease in the world is AIDS( acquired immune deficiency syndrome) , which is mainly caused by unprotected sexual relationship with HIV(Human immuno deficiency virus ) infected people.The prevention of HIV is not a medicine, but it is the true love and loyality between the life life partners.
In conclusion, I would say that a happy family believe in the virtue of love and sacrificed an have a great sharing and caring attitude towards each other.There is a great willingness to stay together and a strong loyalty.A happy family is where, they stand by and protect each other in the time of great misfortune and they share love and happiness in the time of joy.
8.What ever happens don't stop feel small. I am really not experienced, but marriage is a tough thing. To raise a family, you have to think about your family, you have to make others happy. You can not be all your own and you have to keep yourself happy. What I learned from books, films and from my own observations that you can not be happy even if everybody loves you, even if you have everything you want, if you are not happy on your own. Dear friend, so the question is how to become happy all by yourself ? I think that you have to know who you are really ? That is the first aim in life. That is how you found a work to do. By doing that you can be happy. So, my friend what I want to say is that find the happiness within yourself first. I hope I said something good.
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The answer is nothing, people don't have time to think about what to say, they would give same comments according to the work you have done.Okay, you may think some people would say something bad, well, who cares ?You don't have to worry what crappy things they say behind you . You have to be just cool and calm. If people are talking talking behind you, it simply they are behind you and you are ahead of them. You should never react criticizes , if you react , its their victory. The very best way to reply any criticizes is to remain silent and give them a smile,that is just gonna break their spirit to criticize you again. Instead of reacting you must focus in improving yourself. You must become more successful than them.This is your challenge. If you think you have a skill., believe in your skill, this is the very skill, you need to focus and improve,make it shine out. It does not matter if your parents,friends don't believe in your talent or skill, you need to have your faith in yourself even in the hardest time and keep fighting till you win.Try it, I am also trying it, Be free from the worries about what others think about you, have a peaceful mind and life.Belief is full of energy, it can connect you to the universal energy. No one can beat you , trust your skill and talent , improve it and make it best, there is nothing to worry about the future, everything is in your present, right in this moment. Stop worrying about your past and future, only thing that matters most is what are you doing in this moment and how you feel doing it ?
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How choices makes you who you are by Jitu Das
If you think your parents and your environment is completely responsible for who you are, you are wrong. Actually its all about the choices you made from your childhood that made you who you are so far. Always remember,its the coices that changes your life. Make choices that will fufil your interest. before making any choices think,is this choice gonna make you feel proud or good in future or not ? For example If you know that studying would make your future better,then study.
One of the most important thing we all neglect is our own instincs, believing your instincts is also a huge part of believing yourself. Everytime you feel, you will just when you feel something, act on that feeling( this feeling is also called inner enlightment, having an idea ) which will lead you to something good. When you go with the flow of feelings, ideas, instincts you never regret, you always get something great that make you feel like ,I am glad that I went with my instincts.
Your instincts are always helping you, When you trip,your both hands go downward to save your chest,abodomen,in simple instincts saves your body from the fall.Well, instinct is called reflex action in biology.
There is two type of instincs we have, one is inborn instincs and the other is acquired instincs. Born instincs are all your unlearned knowledge and the acquired instincs is learned or acquired. So, when you see a perfomomance of a guitarist, pianist or a great vocalist, what do you say ? Many peolple would say he is god gifted.But no one knows how much that guitarist had practiced.
The best example of Acquired instincs is everything we learn to do. Just because these instincs are earned that does not mean they don't become natural for us. Eating food, walking, cycling, riding byke, driving car, writing,typing,speaking ,acting, lying, not believing, not believing, hoping, not hoping, all the good things, all the bad things are all there.
It still depends on your choices, what do you want to acquire ? There is love or there is haterd everywhere,its all upto you, what do you want ? If you want love, then earn it.Infact that makes sense, how could there will be Unconditional love, A mother won't love his children if they don't respect her or if they do drugs. Why would a boyfriend can love his girlfriend, when she is cheating him ? thats does not make any sense.
For love there should be a condition, because condition or the situation creates our reaction or feelings towards the people, if that does not satisfy our basic expectations or needs,how uncondititional love is possible there ?
Love is a good feeling towards somebody, so if someone you love hurts you or make you feel bad, you are gonna hate them, don't you ?
Thats when comes two choices whether to ignore them totally or not .Thats how its works. No matter how many people hate you, just love yourself enough, live happily, keep learning new things, meet new people, let the old friend go if they don't respect you or don't value you. Find people who respect you.Everything has a reason, writing all these has also a reason.
How to live your life by Jitu Das
Live your life right now, do the things you love right now.Don't live in your dreams, live in reality. If you think deep down, in your mind,what will you find that feels like real & alive ? The only thing you have in your life is "Life". The important thing in the whole universe is that right now you are alive. In the whole world only a few people appreciate that they are alive right now. I am alive and I do appreciate that.My life is my god, it is the whole source of energy for everything I did and am doing and will do.If you calm your mind and think, you will appreciate that you are alive.Well, its not about being alive, its more,much more.Day by day, you are growing older; and life is becoming more than you can possibly imagine.Human intellect is growing every second.Technology is everywhere.Now-a-days kids are more smarter than we were used to be.
Don't ever think or say that you hate your life,you may also think you hate yourself, remember you never hate yourself because everybody love themselves, love their names.May be its your job that you don't like,maybe it your companions whom you don't like. I think everybody love the people who love them back but not everybody love back the people ,who love them.Its the truth. When you love someone and that someone don't love you back, you start to hate that person, its true.
Every life has its own reason.Everybody is important as much you & me. Because everyone is doing something and living.This is how the world works. Every work has its own value & importance.But when you when you a get a job which is also your hobby, you would love your work, you will be life time satisfied.Because I think, ,the only one way to be truly happy is using your talent. Talent is what you are good at without trying, I mean you do that work spontaneously very good. Some people watch films, some listen music, some make chat, some go outside or play.some people make food, there is so many things that people love to do.A hobby is what you pay for or maybe not for doing something.
World is a place where good & bad things both happens all the time.Everyday you meet people , some people make you feel good, and some make you feel bad, and you always think why did behave with me like that.But you know now that you shouldn't hang out or meet those people.You must spend your time with the people those who love you, share their happiness with you and never make you feel bad.If someone even who is your friend make you feel bad isn't actually a friend at all.The most important fact about a true fiend is that they never ever make your fun or humiliate you.Just because some people doesn't like you doesn't mean you are a bad person. Just belive that there is always some true friends waiting for you.You gotta search for them.Its like You are in search page of google, you gotta search for what you need. So I was talking about having a hobby, It can be anything you enjoy doing. I wouldn't only ask you What do you love to ? Because you love to do many thing and would love to do much more things. But my question for you is what do you do most of your time in a day or a week. What are the things you are doing and enjoying .For me I read books, watch cinemas and listen music ,I love to chat with my dad and mom. I love to hang with my friends.I watch TV sometime, travelling etc;And more than anything ;I think in my white little brain. I can't stop thinking.But I would love to play guitar,violin, travel all around the world,marry someone who loves me as much I do.Take your time to think and know about what are the things you are doing or what you did that you really enjoyed. More you know about what you are doing and what you are enjoying, more you start to love your life.
We often have to do things that we don't love to do at all.Well its not fair to please yourself only. We must do things for others too even when you don't want to.I heard someone saying that bible says to do for others more than you do for yourself.I think to get the best by doing for somebody is not think about it all after you have help.Everybody wants credit for their works, every creative worker wants to credit for what they have created, when critics give their credit, they love it, when critics don't give any credit, they suffer, But the great writer don't work for credit, they do that because they just love doing it, if they would have thought what will be review of their work they couldn't have done it so amazing.They do what they do for the satisfaction of doing...may be I am writing all these that why if you ask me why ?
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Jitu Das
“Find the right frequency that resonates with your soul.”
Assamese writer. Observer of life. Capturing thoughts, stories, and reflections with a touch of soul.