Friday, December 27, 2019

Does unconditional love exist by Jitu Das philosophy

 One thing common in this world that everybody had,have and will have without any condition and i.e Love. But dear reader one question that is bugging me for a week, is love is really unconditional ?? At first I am asking you ?? is it ?? Do we love someone without any condition or what ? What is the truth behind love ? Dear reader this post is not about love but rather about the conditions in which we love. Love can't be defined but I am sure we understand love via examples.Following are the perfect examples of love is  -----
 1. Love of mother 
 2.Love of father
 3. Love of brother
 4.Love of sister
 5.Love of a boy-friend
 6 Love of a girl-friend and   
 7.Love of  other things .            

The  problem  is which love is more strong or unconditional love ?what is unconditional love anyway ?I think unconditional love is very rare and  divine , in this love the lovers don't care about their look, money,skill,age and all other facts that strongly matters  in case  of  just love. Who falls in unconditional or passionate love is called True love.In this love lovers don't expect any gain for their love,they just love to love. In above 7 examples are given. which one is unconditional ? Most of people in the world would say that mothers love is unconditional ?But in a case where there is no mother,only father is present then there fathers love would be unconditional ( if the father love his childern). After mother's love, the love of life partners comes. Both  the love of mother,father and life partner's love is seems to be unconditional ! So it seems here we have come to an confusion ! Whose love is more unconditional ? who knows ? if you know please tell me in the comment !      
  I think both parents love and life partners love is not totally unconditional , for example------

 1. the boy at age 15 who don't study, drink alcohol would not be loved by his parents !( not  essentially   in every case) 

2.The boy at age 6 can't speak would be loved less while he would have love more if he could have been talk, ( I am writing this post because I need to sort it out what is it , not in ever case it happens ,but from my 20 years of experience I can say it loud)

3 If you still think that mother's love is unconditional, you are not all right ! Here for an example, two brothers , one is at 22 and other is 19, the older brother is very good at academic career, he has no job, but the younger one is good at academic career, who would be loved more ? surely the younger one if we regard the academic career.But whom would mother love more ? After two years the older one gets married without asking his parents, and the younger one gets a little bad grades, in this case  of course  the younger one  will be loved but a little less than before. Then after a year the older one gets a job and the younger get failed , what will happen in this case, here the older will be loved ( if he stay same as before) will not loved( if he get change for having a job with his attitude toward  his  parents ). After 3 years the younger one become graduate with high grades, the he would be loved more .

4. In case of life partners the man will love his woman if she behaves him well, make good food and above all love him. The woman would love his man if she get new clothes,  jewelery,money and above all love. 

           So,it seems that when in a relationship people get what they want from each other then there remains love. In case mothers love,the mother wants his children to be educated and a job. When her children don't study she get afraid that her children won't get a job. Then she shout at her children to study because they must study and get a job, thats what she want. But is there should be shouting or blaming in love ?  of-course  not, then in that time there is no love when the children is not studying or doing what she want ,she  will  get angry at him , so my friend is  there  any place for anger in love ? After a while then her children started to study and then mother smiles. So, think about it what is it actually ? we become happy when others do what we think right for them.(everything your parents wants you to do is good for you, this is what your parents thinks, they think their children will study and then will get good grades and a good job, then get married, have kids, and then your go to school,then college,then job,then marriage, then your grandson, hey you have spent all your time playing a game called Family, you get old and die.)Dear reader I am pretty sure you don't want that life., I know you wanna shine out, don't live a common life.)        SO HERE I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE THAT THERE IS LOVE EVERYWHERE AS LONG AS WE GET WHAT WE WANT, BUT THERE IS NO  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE  IN THIS WORLD OF GREED.BUT THERE  IS A LOVE CALLED LOVE OF HOBBY OF PASSION IN WHICH WE SEEK FOR NO GAINING, DOING HOBBY IS THE GAINING AND THAT IS WHAT I AM DOING.        DEAR READER HAVE A HOBBY OR A PASSION, WHICH IS TRULY AN  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE 

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