Does unconditional love exist by Jitu Das philosophy

 One thing common in this world that everybody had,have and will have without any condition and i.e Love. But dear reader one question that is bugging me for a week, is love is really unconditional ?? At first I am asking you ?? is it ?? Do we love someone without any condition or what ? What is the truth behind love ? Dear reader this post is not about love but rather about the conditions in which we love. Love can't be defined but I am sure we understand love via examples.Following are the perfect examples of love is  -----

 1. Love of mother 

 2.Love of father

 3. Love of brother

 4.Love of sister

 5.Love of a boy-friend

 6 Love of a girl-friend and   

 7.Love of  other things .            

The  problem  is which love is more strong or unconditional love ?what is unconditional love anyway ?I think unconditional love is very rare and  divine , in this love the lovers don't care about their look, money,skill,age and all other facts that strongly matters  in case  of  just love. Who falls in unconditional or passionate love is called True love.In this love lovers don't expect any gain for their love,they just love to love. In above 7 examples are given. which one is unconditional ? Most of people in the world would say that mothers love is unconditional ?But in a case where there is no mother,only father is present then there fathers love would be unconditional ( if the father love his childern). After mother's love, the love of life partners comes. Both  the love of mother,father and life partner's love is seems to be unconditional ! So it seems here we have come to an confusion ! Whose love is more unconditional ? who knows ? if you know please tell me in the comment !      

  I think both parents love and life partners love is not totally unconditional , for example------

 1. the boy at age 15 who don't study, drink alcohol would not be loved by his parents !( not  essentially   in every case) 

2.The boy at age 6 can't speak would be loved less while he would have love more if he could have been talk, ( I am writing this post because I need to sort it out what is it , not in ever case it happens ,but from my 20 years of experience I can say it loud)

3 If you still think that mother's love is unconditional, you are not all right ! Here for an example, two brothers , one is at 22 and other is 19, the older brother is very good at academic career, he has no job, but the younger one is good at academic career, who would be loved more ? surely the younger one if we regard the academic career.But whom would mother love more ? After two years the older one gets married without asking his parents, and the younger one gets a little bad grades, in this case  of course  the younger one  will be loved but a little less than before. Then after a year the older one gets a job and the younger get failed , what will happen in this case, here the older will be loved ( if he stay same as before) will not loved( if he get change for having a job with his attitude toward  his  parents ). After 3 years the younger one become graduate with high grades, the he would be loved more .

4. In case of life partners the man will love his woman if she behaves him well, make good food and above all love him. The woman would love his man if she get new clothes,  jewelery,money and above all love. 

           So,it seems that when in a relationship people get what they want from each other then there remains love. In case mothers love,the mother wants his children to be educated and a job. When her children don't study she get afraid that her children won't get a job. Then she shout at her children to study because they must study and get a job, thats what she want. But is there should be shouting or blaming in love ?  of-course  not, then in that time there is no love when the children is not studying or doing what she want ,she  will  get angry at him , so my friend is  there  any place for anger in love ? After a while then her children started to study and then mother smiles. So, think about it what is it actually ? we become happy when others do what we think right for them.(everything your parents wants you to do is good for you, this is what your parents thinks, they think their children will study and then will get good grades and a good job, then get married, have kids, and then your go to school,then college,then job,then marriage, then your grandson, hey you have spent all your time playing a game called Family, you get old and die.)Dear reader I am pretty sure you don't want that life., I know you wanna shine out, don't live a common life.)        SO HERE I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE THAT THERE IS LOVE EVERYWHERE AS LONG AS WE GET WHAT WE WANT, BUT THERE IS NO  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE  IN THIS WORLD OF GREED.BUT THERE  IS A LOVE CALLED LOVE OF HOBBY OF PASSION IN WHICH WE SEEK FOR NO GAINING, DOING HOBBY IS THE GAINING AND THAT IS WHAT I AM DOING.        DEAR READER HAVE A HOBBY OR A PASSION, WHICH IS TRULY AN  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE 

A realted post :- 

WHY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE EXIST ? 

How to find your goal by Jitu Das philosophy

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How to find your goal 

First Published in 10/5/2011

Last updated on 6/11/2019

    

  

• At the beginning of this post, I  want you to know that I  always wanted to write about something I am good at and here it goes...Most of the people I know are too busy to read my blog. I don't even know if anyone would read it. I would love to share my feelings about life with everyone. Life is a mystery, don't waste your time to find out, yet we all want to know more about life. What is life? -''Some would say life is no more than fate, '' some would say it's difficult to find out.'' some would say life is about living and enjoying, it's not about questioning or finding what is it? . and some would say life has no meaning at all. scientists would say life is consists of a living cell.   

• When  we talk about human life :

•   In the moment of conception, a sperm fertilizes the egg,its the start of a new life,after 9 months     we born, day by day we grow up, we learn to talk ,we learn to walk , of course our parents, our relatives  teach these things to us, at the age of 4 or 5 we are admitted to go to primary school, then at the age of 13 we go to high school, from now on you start to make friends ,girls make friends with girls and the boys make friends with boys, then at the age of 18, we go to college, now its time to choose our stream--1. science, 2. arts, 3. commerce and many more. now we will be asked especially by our parents what do we want to do in our life?. This is a tough question for those who have not yet decided his or her aim or goal,or in simple word what does he wants to do to make his living .sure it is a hard question, in this age [13-25] a boy or a girl  wants to become many things , when he watches a film he wants to be an actor, when she sees a magazine she wants to become a model, sometimes we want to be a doctor .sometimes a singer ,sometimes a scientist,sometimes a engineer ,sometimes a writer ,sometimes  a pilot. At last  we all get confused, though some of us  get to know what does he really wants to become , and its not because of he is too intelligent, but its because of his courage to dream , and not only to dream but  to follow his dream with his willpower, honesty, and courageous and peaceful  mind and a fearless heart and  a sound body. If you think you want to be a successful, rich,  happy and healthy person and you also want to marry someone you love! well people say that you can't have it all, but that doesn't mean you can't have anything, at least you should try to have work you love to do. You can get anything you want, I wouldn't ask you the most famous question " what do you want in your life ?", of course, that is a tough question, I guess the question is hard to answer because its not 'the ' proper question that should have been asked. 

• The question should be like this " what are the things you want to do in your life ?" because we all need many things in our life, everyone has a different list of things he wants to do.

•  We all have a list of interesting works in our mind, where we put, our interesting works. In this 21st century, there are thousands of work fields, for that reason a great confusion has formed in the minds of young adults. If you are confused about finding work, that you are truly interested in, then its time to free yourself from your doubts and confusion, which are causing only stress, worries in your life. So, its time to check your list, where there are many works that you find interesting, and now you are confused. One thing you should know that among the different interests you have, one is true interest and others are not true.

•   How to find out the true interest and the false interest from that list? The answer is that if your interest is true, you will work hard on the subject to know more, but for you, it would only seem fun work and easy. And if you are not working hard in the subject, and if you are having problems in concentrating on the subject, then your interest is a false one, and you will have no benefit to keeping interested in that subject anymore. 

•   To be honest with you, for me writing is like drinking water, I can't believe sometimes it's so easy to write. To find work that you find it very easy, exciting and makes you happy every time you do it and that keeps you happy for a long time. As time passes, I find writing a fascinating work and believe it thrills me from the feet to the brain. I love writing, watching films. Watching the film is for me like the food of my mind. If I don't watch a film, if I don't write, I feel so heavy. And you know it very heaviness in mind only cause stress. So when I write I am only concentrated on writing, nothing else bothers me. It's like I am totally get dissolved in only writing.

• So the field of work where your mind works amazingly, where your mind is at calm and heart is satisfied,  the subject of work, where your mind gives you abundant good ideas, is the work of your true interest or passion and that is the work you should do. Because when you do work of your interest, there will be no other thoughts that will disturb or distract you. When you are doing the work you find interesting, nothing distracts you and when you are doing something that is not an interesting subject for you, you will find yourself, yawning, getting bored, getting distracted every minute. It always happens in the class, where the teacher is not teaching the subject interestingly, students find it boring. There is a saying that interest is the mother of education. So, if you want to an educated person, find the subject that holds all your focus. Its important to listen to your own heart, the choice of the subject must be taken by you, do not listen to your parents about this and don't follow the popular trend also.

•  You are alive now, that is a great fact, do not take it for granted. Each moment, you can start doing the work, you want to. The purpose of our life is to search in our within who we are really? When you will know yourself, you will know your abilities well, and you will do the work, that you are good at. So, never stop learning about yourself. To know who you are in the oldest piece of advice in philosophy. Socrates said that 2399 years ago to know thyself. If everybody have known who they are and what they should perform in the stage of word, our human life would have been more peaceful. 

• Find work, that you are truly interested in and you don't have to worry about anything in the world. Most people in their young -adult age, do not ask the questions -Who they are? what work they are truly interested in, etc.

• The best way to find the work, your true passion or interest. You have to study the subject related to the work, you see, every work has a theory to read about. To become a businessman, there are books about business, to become an actor, there are books about how to act,. to become a philosopher, there are books to read. Even if you hate to read books, there are multiple ways nowadays to learn about any subject. In the subject you are spending most of your time, is the work of your true interest.

• Notice, what do you do every day. Answer what is the subject or work, you think about every day. What is your dream?

• Do you have many dreams? If you have, you will get confused, about what dream to follow in your life, obviously, it is hard to follow every dream. But you can achieve your dreams one by one. It is very important to complete, what you are already doing now. You should not jump around from one work to another, because if you do that, you will never do any work properly in your life. Every work needs your total concentration, if you focus on one subject at a time, you could do many works any life, and you could even achieve more than one goal in your life.

•  Many people says to find a goal , find a destination , well I say make a list of things you want to do before you die, because my brothers and sisters you got only one life, don't try so hard to find your ultimate goal, because that doesn't even exist, more you try to find your meaning or your goal or destination, the more  you get depressed  & stressed. In simple sentences, don't try to find your goal. Because if you really want to know what should be your goal, the answer is simple and you already know it!  At first, you need to have a hobby, Your hobby is what you love to do in your free time. If you don't have any what then think what would you like as your hobby. If you want your life to be exciting then you must find work that you love to do. If you want to find a work that makes you happy then answer the questions ~ what do you do now in the free time that makes you happy, and all your worries disappear, what kind of tv show you watch? , which page of a newspaper interest you? What kind of magazine you read,  what kind of people you believe as great people? everything you think or do is telling you what you love to do. Know your interest, not others.  Be confident about what you believe as a great work because you know yourself more than others. that's why it is very essential to know yourself. If you want to find true yourself, do what you love, do what you believe as a  satisfying work. You can't love your work unless you do what you love to do. Its time to believe in what you love to do not to get confused by the random opinion of others. Your life will be filled with the pleasure of happiness and satisfaction, which is regarded as the highest level of success. Improve your workday by day and be master of the work you do. Don't worry about the money, it will flow to you. Just be the champion of what you love to do! Don't try to adjust yourself where you don't belong. Find the joy in your life doing what you love to do.

• Some question you should ask yourself now - 
•  Name a great man, you want to become like? What is his field of work? 
• What do you do as a hobby?
• What did you wish to become when you were a kid? 

The work, you don't any reason to do, is the work you are born to do. If you start to ask for reasons why you are doing what you are doing, that doesn't only mean that you are a very curious person. I think that, when you love something, you don't question why you love it? Do you? If you need reasons to do something, it is because you are not enjoying what you are doing. Ask, any great scientist, writers, singers, painter, filmmaker, actor, the question of why they do what they do? They all would say that they can't live without doing their work, they say it's their life. Such passion for work is what makes them great. My point is, do the work, you love. When you do the work, you enjoy every moment of doing it. First know who you are, what kind of thinker you are, what kind of body you have. 

AFTER 8 YEARS

11/6/19

After 8 years of writing this post, I know that I was being cocky at that time, I thought I had the answer, I thought I would be writing every day, but I didn't, I kind of stopped writing after a while, it's not I was bored, it's just wasted my time on my distractions. 

Social media addiction has been a great problem for everyone who is aspiring to achieve great success in any field, social media creates huge distractions and our dopamine rush keeps on edge for a while, but  at the end of the day, social media steals time that you could have used for your hobbies and  dream projects.

Recently I have been away from social media apps like Facebook, whatsapp and Instagram and it had been proved to really good experience for me. I am not saying I will never use these apps, I just want to take a long break.

If you want to get rid of social media addiction, you might want to check this post...

How to break the social media addiction and stress in 21 days

I have to admit now that even though I had that strong desire to be a writer, even after, I have published no books,it's just that the part of me that wanted to be a writer had been lost for a couple of years, the strong sense of desire had been lost for a couple of years.

I now realize that having a goal is no way enough, it takes effort regarding the goal you have, the bigger the goal, it requires more effort, without the goal, you have no direction, and without the movement in the direction towards your goal, it's obvious that you are not going to reach your goal by being standing still.

Why you should follow your instincts by Jitu Das philosophy

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                  Should you follow your instinct ?

Trusting instinct is not surrendering to destiny. The people who does not dream or follow their in the way instincts are always saying, they are the one who are afraid, lazy. They do nothing and thinks that it is their fate . I believe in f...ate, but the fate that man create by his thoughts. Following instincts is not possible for people who are not curious. Reading the little signs in everyday life, one must follow his dream. Following the dream is not surrendering to fate but creating fate on your own. But the creating fate of your own is based on what you want. Your desire creates your world. It is the law of attraction. It feels magical and yet I believe it to be logical. If I think about where I am now, I find that its the little things that changed my life.So just follow your instinct you will never regret. Because I have followed my instinct and I am glad of doing everything I did. Life is too short waste it by  regretting.All you could do is follow your instinct that shows you the way when the road is misty.Know that future is always uncertain.You can only hope but not plan.But if your will is strong,things start to work out  the way you dreamed for. As Paulo Coelho said- When you want something,all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. That is true.Law of attraction works.Believe. 

Our life is much more larger than we think. We just don't realize how great and amazing our life. We take it for granted. Most people do not learn from the changes of his life and environment. Some are happy being ignorant. Some people have nothing good to say about others. They were the bullies in school and somehow they remain rude all their life. I do not know how could they ? Some people are dreamers and yet they just do not have the will or desire to make it come true. Some people have no dream, even if they have they hide it so deep that even they forget that they ever had any dream. Everybody should follow their own dream, not their parent's dream.  Everybody  has a different dream. I have a dream that one day people will talk more about good things than bad things. I have a dream one day people get wise enough to see the value in what they really want.

                                 What would happen if everyone follows their dream ?

There was a conflict within me that if every body follows their dream and gets what they want, what will happen in the world ? Would not the resources run out ? I have thought a lot about that. I think that if you want to be good and do good, then there is always a place for you, because there is always a need of goodness instead of badness. If everybody wants to be good at something ? What will happen then ? Some people says that if everybody in the world become good, then the world will disappear ! That is just absurd thinking. 

Do you know that a piano have 5000 parts in it and if just one part does not work properly, then the piano sounds bad. Think about the world as a piano and these 5000 parts as the people. How the man made world sounds to you. Does it sound good to you ? Is there peace everywhere around the world. There may not be peace everywhere, but the future is very bright, I know it in my belly. We are heading to live in much more peaceful world. I have a dream that one day all the people sing, dance, drink, and dance without being shy. People would love each other by letting go their ego. People would live a passionate life trusting their instincts.


                                                     A realization of what made this me.

Two days a realization has come to about how I happen to be me what I am now. Was it my fate ? I do not know. But I think there is something called instinct, desire or force that drives your life in a direction that separtates your life from your brother or sister even though you lived in the same house and were brought by ake parents. 
Its the little or the tiniest things you did or event that happened to you is the cause for what you are now or maybe your life was designed by the embryo you were. Maybe it is the genes that give characters to children. Characters like curiosity, aspirations, kindness, shyness, ego etc. The height, color, face and everything they were coded inside the genes which were produced by the couplation of the sperm and egg of your parents. A gene is a part of the DNA. DNA is the genetic material of life, except it is the RNA incase of bacteria. 

So, you did not learn or acquired all the charcters that makes you who you are. But still I ask was this a fate ? To know that we must first answer what is fate ? In hinduism fate means the written plan of life for a person by God Brahma, who has three heads and who creates the universe( Bramha ).
But the genes you have now were carried by a specific sperm who reached the egg first, while thousands of other sperm cell did compete in the swim but did not reached the egg and died, you could have been someone else if a different sperm reached the egg first. 
Anyway, I am just glad who I am, I do not want to someond else. I am winner, I mean the characters I have were carried by a sperm cell who swimmed fast and won that race of life. In this darshana( view) everybody has the potential to win since they have won in it in the ovary !

What do you need in life by Jitu Das

 Do you know how you get bored ?
You get bored, when you don't have any new idea to think about.
Whenever you hear a new idea, see a new idea , think a new idea you feel so much energy within.
The thing about idea is that you must know who you are first to know what kind of idea gives you energy. You can always find who you are, its just like buying your right sized shoe, to find the right shoe, you must put on other shoes too. So don't you settle on anything. 
 To make life more worth living, you should be -
1. Lover -You can be lover of anything. But you must love something. We are all lover of music, films, art, adventure, thrill ...
2. Curious- You must be curious to learn more. Learning is surely not the main purpose of life .
3. Friendly - we human are social loving animal. We can't live without connecting ourselves with society. Everybody is connected with society or with an another human being or any life or organism through direct or indirect contact.
4.Watch films -  When we are watching a film we are connecting to ourselves in a story in which we can see as we are a invisible detective learning how they are living( I wrote living a film always in present continuous , except the flash backs). I love films like more than anything !.
I love to know people around the world. Thats why I watch films of every langugae if there is subtitles available. My friend, watch films to know more about people and the world. You should watch 50 great films before you die  
5. Listen to music- Listen music to feel the enthusiastic, sadness. Music has the ability to induce emotions in you. Music can make you feel romantic, music can make you feel energetic, music can calm your mind, music can make you smart, music can make you passionate. Music is one of the greatest invention and now is the greatest of all time, you can listen to any music from anycountry, genre, singer, because you have a great power called internet.
The music of Amelie just creates harmony within me. Some music creates happiness, love, enthuaism. So I realized that happiness, love, sadness every emotion is within us, the emotions are within our brain, released by the hypothalamus of our brain, serotonin, dopamine.,Epinephrine. But even though in a complew way everything works in our body, but in a larger sense we must follow what we love. Here its get complicated in case of following. I mean you can love so many thing, but at one point you have to leave everything behind and follow one love. So the problem arise and you feel like you need to discussed with someone, someone who is interested in you, someone who loves you.
You may be  doing anything in your life, but remember You can always do 3 great things your life -
1. Live life fully
2. Help others live life fully
3. Be curious and open minded.
I wanna do it, do you ?

How to find the work you are born to do ? by Jitu Das

    The work, you don't any reason to do, is the work you are born to do. If you start to ask for reasons why you are doing what you are doing, that doesn't only mean that you are a very curious person. I think that, when you love something, you don't question why you love ? Do you ? If you need reasons to do something, it is because you are not enjoying what you are doing. Ask, any great scientist,writers, singers, painter, filmmaker, actor, the question why they do what they do ? They all would say that, they can't live without doing their work, they say its their life. Such passion for a work, is what makes them great. My point is, do the work, you love. When you do the work, you enjoy every moment doing it. First know who you are, what kind of thinker you are.Believe in your inborn talent. Find the work, you can  do all day without being bored,tired and exhausted. Your work could be anything that you are good at. Every work is a great but may not be famous. You need to believe in something. You have to live a life of passion. Passion is nothing but the strong desire to do something that excites your body ,mind and soul.I am writing this, because writing to inspire you is my passion. Your inner-world becomes stable,peaceful when you do the work , that distracts you most. When you start do "the work," leaving other work( The work that seeks your attention while you are doing other work.) then you will never get distracted anymore, no nagging thoughts will come. To know what is the work, you are born for, you just have to find the work, by doing which work,your mind go blank. When I write, my mind get so concentrated that I don't think about other things at all. I find the work peaceful. So, my friend , your job is to find the work, by doing which, you find inner peace, find the work by doing which your mind do not get distracted, find the work, which is like meditation for you. Find the work,that when you do that only one thing that exist is your work, and the whole world disappears. Such concentration is meditation. My dear, friend, find the work,that you are born to do,not what others tell you. If you notice very well, you will find that, the people you are related to are suggesting you to do, whats trending,not the work you are born to do. My friend, please don't listen to them, find the work, your life will be amazing when you do the work, you will be free as birds, light, peaceful as lake
You and I always know in our heart, what we want in life. But, we get worried, if we don't get what we really really want. The remedy is to believe in your talent,your inborn talent. You will get what you want, just follow what you love. Always believe that you are good at something. Your work is to find out what you are good at not what other's are good at. It is always about you,find who you want to be in your life...

How to make your life more amazing by Jitu Das

I love life, I enjoy living. Who am I. what is my goal, how to find your goal , evolution, what happened before big bang are the questions that motivates me read & learn. I write about Life, I want to know why a mother loves their children so much, and their children when grow up doesn't care about their mother, who is more important for a man, his mother or his wife. Most of the people are unhappy ! Most of the people are not doing what they wanted when they were kids, thats why they are not happy, Paulo Coelho said, wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure. Most of the people on earth are angry because they have no goal, they never tried to know what is their goal, what they are good at.If a person could have his goal, he or she will have satisfaction, this satisfaction will change their life,they will be calm & cool.Life would be like a long ,fun holiday on Earth, I want you to have a good life. If people get what they would never be jealous, jealousy is like the rust in the iron, Most of the people on earth is jealous of each other. It makes people sad, behavior becomes rude.Wherever your interest is, there lies your good life. So,I think finding your goal is all you need to do, because if you find your goal, you will know yourself, its called self realization or enlightment. when you have this self realization, all your nagging thoughts will melt away.You will have constant satisfaction. If you realize your talent, you will know what to do do by yourself. If you want to know your uniqueness, you have to do some study, you need to travel, you need to read biographies of great people, you need to ask yourself what you are good at, The Only question which you will erase all your confusion, and that is -- What is that thing you can do all day, without feeling exhausted, bored, tired. Thats it, you are born for this work, What is work, work is the only great way to spend your life. What is life ? Life is that summation of your work or a series of events that happens continuously, you wonder sometime, what is going on ? what is Life. In simple, Life is the best thing you have, though you have never asked for it. Life is like a ticket to Disneyland, you enter, you have fun, see different things with the people you love, and when the day is about to end, you make sure you have all the fun, then you leave that Disneyland .

How to live your life by Jitu Das

Live your life right now, do the things you love right now.Don't live in your dreams, live in reality. If you think deep down, in your mind,what will you find that feels like real & alive ? The only thing you have in your life is "Life". The important thing in the whole universe is that right now you are alive. In the whole world only a few people appreciate that they are alive right now. I am alive and I do appreciate that.My life is my god, it is the whole source of energy for everything I did and am doing and will do.If you calm your mind and think, you will appreciate that you are alive.Well, its not about being alive, its more,much more.Day by day, you are growing older; and life is becoming more than you can possibly imagine.Human intellect is growing every second.Technology is everywhere.Now-a-days kids are more smarter than we were used to be.

Don't ever think or say that you hate your life,you may also think you hate yourself, remember you never hate yourself because everybody love themselves, love their names.May be its your job that you don't like,maybe it your companions whom you don't like. I think everybody love the people who love them back but not everybody love back the people ,who love them.Its the truth. When you love someone and that someone don't love you back, you start to hate that person, its true.

Every life has its own reason.Everybody is important as much you & me. Because everyone is doing something and living.This is how  the world works. Every work has its own value & importance.But when you when you a get a job which is also your hobby, you would love your work, you will be life time satisfied.Because I think, ,the only one way to be truly happy is using your talent. Talent is what you are good at without trying, I mean you do that work spontaneously very good. Some people watch films, some listen music, some make chat, some go outside or play.some people make food, there is so many things that people love to do.A hobby is what you pay for or maybe not for doing something.

World is a place where good & bad things both happens all the time.Everyday you meet people , some people make you feel good, and some make you feel bad, and you always think why did behave with me like that.But you know now that you shouldn't hang out or meet those people.You must spend your time with the people those who love you, share their happiness with you and never make you feel bad.If someone even who is your friend make you feel bad isn't actually a friend at all.The most important fact about a true fiend is that they never ever make your fun or humiliate you.Just because some people doesn't like you doesn't mean you are a bad person. Just belive that there is always some true friends waiting for you.You gotta search for them.Its like You are in search page of google, you gotta search for what you need. So I was talking about having a hobby, It can be anything you enjoy doing. I wouldn't only ask you  What do you love to ? Because you love to do many thing and would love to do much more things. But my question for you is what do you do most of your time in a day or a week. What are the things you are doing and enjoying .For me I read books, watch cinemas and listen music ,I love to chat with my dad and mom. I love to hang with my friends.I watch TV sometime, travelling etc;And more than anything ;I think in my white little brain. I can't stop thinking.But I would love to play guitar,violin, travel all around the world,marry someone who loves me as much I do.Take your time to think and know about what are the things you are doing or what you did that you really enjoyed. More you know about what you are doing and what you are enjoying, more you start to love your life.

We often have to do things that we don't love to do at all.Well its not fair to please yourself only. We must do things for others too even when you don't want to.I heard someone saying that bible says to do for others more than you do for yourself.I think to get the best by doing for somebody is not think about it all after you have help.Everybody wants credit for their works, every creative worker wants to credit for what they have created, when critics give their credit, they love it, when critics don't give any credit, they suffer, But the great writer don't work for credit, they do that because they just love doing it, if they would have thought what will be review of their work they couldn't have done it so amazing.They do what they do for the satisfaction of doing...may be I am writing all these that why if you ask me why ?

Benefits of knowing yourself by Jitu Das

I love life, I enjoy living. But; Who am I ? what is my goal ? how to find my goal ?,what happened before big bang are the questions that motivates me read & learn. I write about Life, I want to know why a mother loves their children so much, and their children when grow up doesn't care about their mother, who is more important for a man, his mother or his wife. Most of the people are unhappy ! Most of the people are not doing what they wanted when they were kids, thats why they are not happy, Paulo Coelho said, wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure. Most of the people on earth are angry because they have no goal, they never tried to know what is their goal, what they are good at.If a person could have his goal, he or she will have satisfaction, this satisfaction will change their life,they will be calm & cool.Life would be like a long ,fun holiday on Earth, I want you to have a good life. 

If people get what they would never be jealous, jealousy is like the rust in the iron, Most of the people on earth is jealous of each other. It makes people sad, behavior becomes rude.Wherever your interest is, there lies your good life.

So,I think finding your goal is all you need to do, because if you find your goal, you will know yourself, its called self realization or  enlightenment. when you have this self realization, all your nagging thoughts will melt away.


You will have constant satisfaction. If you realize your talent, you will know what to do do by yourself. If you want to know your uniqueness, you have to do some study, you need to travel, you need to read biographies of great people, you need to ask yourself what you are good at. 

The Only question which you will erase all your confusion, and that is -- What is that thing you can do all day, without feeling exhausted, bored, tired. 

Thats it, you are born for this work, What is work, work is the only great way to spend your life.

What is life ? Life is that summation of your work or a series of events that happens continuously,.you wonder sometime, what is going on ?

 what is Life. In simple, Life is the best thing you have, though you have never asked for it. 

Life is like a ticket to Disneyland, you enter, you have fun, see different things with the people you love, and when the day about to end, you make sure you have all the fun, then you leave that Disneyland

How unconditional love exist by Jitu Das

What is conditional love ? Conditional love is nothing but love that has a condition. But what is love ? Love is not what you see in the films, listen in the songs. But the truth of love is not like in the romantic films. I have come to an conclusion about love that Love is nothing but a strong feeling of affection and care caused by sole intimacy. What is intimacy ? Intimacy is name of a feeling between two object. One must be a human and the other one is mostly a human and may be other things. You love your family , you love your pen etc. Who love someone unconditionally ? Mostly would say mother. A mother's love is at the top of all type of love. Please do ask why ?because I am really excited to tell you why ? I have told you I have to come to an conclusion about  love  is nothing but a strong feeling of affection and care caused by sole intimacy. What is intimacy ? Intimacy is name of a feeling between two object. One must be a human and the other one is mostly a human and may be other things. You love your family , you love your pen etc. Who love someone unconditionally ? Mostly would say mother. A mother's love is at the top of all type of love. Please do ask why ?because I am really excited to tell you why ? I have told you I have to come to an conclusion about love. And I also told you that love is nothing but an another name feeling called affection and care caused by intimacy. The longer you spend time with something, intimacy becomes higher. Higher intimacy can results strong love. If you find it not easy what I am talking to you and only to you. You love your family don't you ? Why is that ? Its because they have done all the things that made you who you are right now. You love your mother but your mother loves you more. And why is that ? Because the love is directly proportional to intimacy and intimacy is directly proportional to the spending time with each other. No matter where, how and with whom. Mother spends time with their children than the children. Ask How ? We spend 9 months in a womb. Thats when the intimacy works. Here, a question should arise ? How many time it takes to work intimacy. I think one hour communication via talking is good enough. Usually we unknowingly talk about of children like this, he or she is shy , but give him time to adjust he surely would like you. Thats how intimacy works. Intimacy is of two geniune types. One is close contact and the other is distant contact. Distant contact is of two types. Calling and sms or social networking or all of them. But the most succesful distant contact of intimacy is calling > video  chatting & sending sms. Talking via phone is perfect for intimacy. I have seen many people falling in love  without seeing, by talking via phone. Voice has been always a attracting feature of human.


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Why you should have a hobby by Jitu Das

Live your life right now, do the things you love right now.Don't live in your dreams, live in reality. If you think deep down in your mind,what will you find that feels like real & live ?

 The only thing you have in your life is  "Life". The important thing in the whole universe is that right now you are alive. In the whole world only a few people appreciate that they are alive right now. I am alive and I do appreciate that.

My life is my god, it is whole source of energy for everything I did and am doing and will do.If you think a bit you will appreciate that you are alive.Well its not about being alive, its more,much more.Day by day its getting more than you can possibly imagine.Human intellect is growing every second.Technology is everywhere.Now-a-days kids are more smarter than we were.
         

 Don't ever think or say that you hate your life,you hate yourself, remember you never hate yourself because everybody love themselves, love their names.May be its your job that you don't like,maybe it your companions whom you don't like. I think everybody love the people who love them back but not everybody love back the people ,who love them.Its the truth.


When you love someone and that someone don't love you back, you start to hate that person, its true.Every life has its own reason.Everybody is important as much you & me. Because everyone is doing something and living.

This is how it the world works. Every work has its own value & importance.But when you want a job which is also your hobby.Some people watch  films , some listen music, some make chat, some go outside or play.some people make food, there is so may things that people love to do.A hobby is what you pay for or maybe not for doing something.Word is a place where good & bad things both happen.Everyday you meet people , some people make you feel good, and some make you feel bad, and you always think why did behave with me like that.But you know now that you shouldn't hang out or meet those people.


You must spend your time with the people those who love you, share their happiness with you and never make you feel bad.If someone even who is your friend make you feel bad isn't actually a friend at all.The most important fact about a true fiend is that they never ever make your fun or humiliate you.Just because some people doesn't like you doesn't mean you are a bad person. Just  believe  that there is always some true friends  waiting  for you.You gotta search for them.Its like You are in search page of  Google, you gotta search what you need. 


So I was talking about having a hobby, It can be anything you enjoy doing. I wouldn't ask you only What do you love to ? Because you love to do many thing and would love to do much more things. 

But my question for you is what do you do most of your time in a day or a week ?  What are the things you are doing and enjoying .For me I read books, watch cinemas and listen music friends,I love to chat with my dad and mom. I love to hang with my friends.I watch TV so much.May be more than anything I think in my white little brain. I can't stop thinking.But I would love to play guitar, violin, travel all around the world,marry someone who love as I am.

Take your time to think and know  about what are the things you are doing or what you did that you really enjoyed. More you know about what you are doing and what you are enjoying,more you discover your true self.


           We often have to do things that we don't love to do.Well its not fair to please yourself only. We must do things for others too even when you don't want to.I heard someone saying that bible says to do for others more than you do for yourself.I think to get the best by doing for someobody is not think about it all after you have help.

Everybody wants credit for their works, every creative worker wants to credit for what they have created, when critics give their credit, they love it, when critics don't give any credit, they suffer, But the great writer don't work for credit, they do that because they just love doing it, if they would have thought what will be review of their work they couldn't have done it so amazing.They do what they do for the satisfaction of doing...may be I am writing all these that why if you ask me why ? 

HOW TO FIND YOUR GOAL PART 2 BY JITU DAS

If you think you want to be a successful , rich,  happy and a healthy
person and you also  want to marry  someone you love ! well people say
that you can't  have it all, but  that doesn't mean  you can't have
anything , at least you should try to have a work you love to do.
    You can get anything you want , I wouldn't ask you the most
famous question " what do you want in your life ?" , ofcourse that is
a tough question, I guess the question is hard to answer because its
not 'the ' proper question that should have been asked . The  question
should be like this " what are the things you want to do in your life
? " ,because we all need many things in our life , everyone has a
different list of things  he want to do.

  Many people say find a goal , find a destination , well I say make
a list of things you want to do before you die, because my brothers
and sisters you got only one life , don't try so hard to find your
ultimate goal , because that doesn't even exist ,  more you try to
find your meaning or your goal or destination, the more  you get
depressed  & stressed. In simple sentence , don't try to find your
goal. Because if you really want to know what should be your goal ,
the answer is simple and you already know it ! ~  At first you need to
have a hobby , Your hobby  is what you love to do in your free time.
If you don't have any what  then  think  what  would you like as your
hobby . If you want your life  to be exciting  then you must find a
work that you love to do. If you want to find a work that makes  you
happy then answer the questions ~ what do you do now in your free time
that makes you happy , and all your worries  disappear, what kind of
tv show you watch ? , which page of a newspaper attracks you ? What
kind of megazine you read,  what kind of   people  you believe as
great people ? Everthing you think or do is telling you what you love
to do. Know your interest not others.  Be confident  about what you
believe as a great work, because you know yourself more than others.
Thats why it is very  essential to know yourself. If you want to find
true yourself , do what you love , do what you believe as a satifying
work. You can't love your work , unless you do what you love to do.
Its time to  believe in what you love to do not to get confused by
random opinion of others. Your life  will be filled with pleasure  of
happiness and satisfaction, which is regarded as the highest level
success. Improve your work day by day and be master of the work you
do. Don't worry about the money , it will flow to you. Just be the
champion of what you love to do !Don't try to  adjust yourself  where
you don't belong. Find the joy in your life doing what you love to do.

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