Does unconditional love exist by Jitu Das philosophy

 One thing common in this world that everybody had,have and will have without any condition and i.e Love. But dear reader one question that is bugging me for a week, is love is really unconditional ?? At first I am asking you ?? is it ?? Do we love someone without any condition or what ? What is the truth behind love ? Dear reader this post is not about love but rather about the conditions in which we love. Love can't be defined but I am sure we understand love via examples.Following are the perfect examples of love is  -----

 1. Love of mother 

 2.Love of father

 3. Love of brother

 4.Love of sister

 5.Love of a boy-friend

 6 Love of a girl-friend and   

 7.Love of  other things .            

The  problem  is which love is more strong or unconditional love ?what is unconditional love anyway ?I think unconditional love is very rare and  divine , in this love the lovers don't care about their look, money,skill,age and all other facts that strongly matters  in case  of  just love. Who falls in unconditional or passionate love is called True love.In this love lovers don't expect any gain for their love,they just love to love. In above 7 examples are given. which one is unconditional ? Most of people in the world would say that mothers love is unconditional ?But in a case where there is no mother,only father is present then there fathers love would be unconditional ( if the father love his childern). After mother's love, the love of life partners comes. Both  the love of mother,father and life partner's love is seems to be unconditional ! So it seems here we have come to an confusion ! Whose love is more unconditional ? who knows ? if you know please tell me in the comment !      

  I think both parents love and life partners love is not totally unconditional , for example------

 1. the boy at age 15 who don't study, drink alcohol would not be loved by his parents !( not  essentially   in every case) 

2.The boy at age 6 can't speak would be loved less while he would have love more if he could have been talk, ( I am writing this post because I need to sort it out what is it , not in ever case it happens ,but from my 20 years of experience I can say it loud)

3 If you still think that mother's love is unconditional, you are not all right ! Here for an example, two brothers , one is at 22 and other is 19, the older brother is very good at academic career, he has no job, but the younger one is good at academic career, who would be loved more ? surely the younger one if we regard the academic career.But whom would mother love more ? After two years the older one gets married without asking his parents, and the younger one gets a little bad grades, in this case  of course  the younger one  will be loved but a little less than before. Then after a year the older one gets a job and the younger get failed , what will happen in this case, here the older will be loved ( if he stay same as before) will not loved( if he get change for having a job with his attitude toward  his  parents ). After 3 years the younger one become graduate with high grades, the he would be loved more .

4. In case of life partners the man will love his woman if she behaves him well, make good food and above all love him. The woman would love his man if she get new clothes,  jewelery,money and above all love. 

           So,it seems that when in a relationship people get what they want from each other then there remains love. In case mothers love,the mother wants his children to be educated and a job. When her children don't study she get afraid that her children won't get a job. Then she shout at her children to study because they must study and get a job, thats what she want. But is there should be shouting or blaming in love ?  of-course  not, then in that time there is no love when the children is not studying or doing what she want ,she  will  get angry at him , so my friend is  there  any place for anger in love ? After a while then her children started to study and then mother smiles. So, think about it what is it actually ? we become happy when others do what we think right for them.(everything your parents wants you to do is good for you, this is what your parents thinks, they think their children will study and then will get good grades and a good job, then get married, have kids, and then your go to school,then college,then job,then marriage, then your grandson, hey you have spent all your time playing a game called Family, you get old and die.)Dear reader I am pretty sure you don't want that life., I know you wanna shine out, don't live a common life.)        SO HERE I WOULD LIKE TO CONCLUDE THAT THERE IS LOVE EVERYWHERE AS LONG AS WE GET WHAT WE WANT, BUT THERE IS NO  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE  IN THIS WORLD OF GREED.BUT THERE  IS A LOVE CALLED LOVE OF HOBBY OF PASSION IN WHICH WE SEEK FOR NO GAINING, DOING HOBBY IS THE GAINING AND THAT IS WHAT I AM DOING.        DEAR READER HAVE A HOBBY OR A PASSION, WHICH IS TRULY AN  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE 

A realted post :- 

WHY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE EXIST ? 

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Why you should love all people ? by Jitu Das

Deep inside your heart, you know my friend,what you really want. All the things in the world is trying to make you forget that. But you still know that you only need love and care no matter where you were born. You are as free as a bird. Do not bind your heart in the man made boundaries. Do not hate people living outside your boundary. You are only free if you have an open mind. You are only great if you can inspire the people to fall in love with each other not to bleed. You are made of star dust. You are not just a color, race, religion. More than your color, race, religion, you are a human. Human, who have the largest brain among the entire animal kingdom. We are human and high thinking makes us humane. It is upon you, what you do with your life. Life is a great chance to see all the beauty of the world, to love, to care, to have a family, friends and relatives. Your belief may vary from mine, but I hope you believe that we all the people on earth can live as one. I hope one day there will be more believers on earth, who would believe in unconditional love. They will change the world and make this world a better place for everyone. I hope one day people would believe that love is real, you can be human only through love. It does not matter whom you love or what you love. Love opens your mind and your heart fly with comfort. Love is the best way to achieve your destiny. What better way there was, is and will be to live and die than in a place you love, doing the work you love , with the people you love and who love you back and care for you.

How unconditional love exist by Jitu Das

What is conditional love ? Conditional love is nothing but love that has a condition. But what is love ? Love is not what you see in the films, listen in the songs. But the truth of love is not like in the romantic films. I have come to an conclusion about love that Love is nothing but a strong feeling of affection and care caused by sole intimacy. What is intimacy ? Intimacy is name of a feeling between two object. One must be a human and the other one is mostly a human and may be other things. You love your family , you love your pen etc. Who love someone unconditionally ? Mostly would say mother. A mother's love is at the top of all type of love. Please do ask why ?because I am really excited to tell you why ? I have told you I have to come to an conclusion about  love  is nothing but a strong feeling of affection and care caused by sole intimacy. What is intimacy ? Intimacy is name of a feeling between two object. One must be a human and the other one is mostly a human and may be other things. You love your family , you love your pen etc. Who love someone unconditionally ? Mostly would say mother. A mother's love is at the top of all type of love. Please do ask why ?because I am really excited to tell you why ? I have told you I have to come to an conclusion about love. And I also told you that love is nothing but an another name feeling called affection and care caused by intimacy. The longer you spend time with something, intimacy becomes higher. Higher intimacy can results strong love. If you find it not easy what I am talking to you and only to you. You love your family don't you ? Why is that ? Its because they have done all the things that made you who you are right now. You love your mother but your mother loves you more. And why is that ? Because the love is directly proportional to intimacy and intimacy is directly proportional to the spending time with each other. No matter where, how and with whom. Mother spends time with their children than the children. Ask How ? We spend 9 months in a womb. Thats when the intimacy works. Here, a question should arise ? How many time it takes to work intimacy. I think one hour communication via talking is good enough. Usually we unknowingly talk about of children like this, he or she is shy , but give him time to adjust he surely would like you. Thats how intimacy works. Intimacy is of two geniune types. One is close contact and the other is distant contact. Distant contact is of two types. Calling and sms or social networking or all of them. But the most succesful distant contact of intimacy is calling > video  chatting & sending sms. Talking via phone is perfect for intimacy. I have seen many people falling in love  without seeing, by talking via phone. Voice has been always a attracting feature of human.


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